Primal – Lithuania
Whether you want it or not, your parents plant mental and emotional seeds in you. These seeds grow as you do. In some families, they are seeds of love, respect and independence, but, for many they are seeds of fear, obligation and guilt. There are many parents who act abusively towards their children and engage in toxic behaviours that become consistent and dominant in a child’s life.
All parents make mistakes in the upbringing. That’s normal since there’s no perfect parent. But there is a clear line when too many mistakes, especially repeated abusive behavior towards children, that leads to a toxic home environment, resulting in severe emotional damage to an innocent young person.
Parents who carry a promise of love and care, while at the same time mistreat their child, are called toxic or negative parents. Almost all parents say they love their children, and they usually mean it. But love involves much more than just providing a house and 3 meals a day.
What parents call love rarely comes up as nourishing, comforting, encouraging, respectful, valued and accepting behavior. Parents usually do extremely unloving things, in the name of love. That is how the parent causes great emotional damage to their children. Lost childhood, depression, anxiety, crippling feelings of guilt and shame, and low self-worth are only some of the frequent effects of a toxic upbringing.
On top of that, we all tend to repeat familiar patterns of feelings, no matter how painful and self-defeating they may be. In other words, children of toxic parents try to reenact their old, painful experiences in other adulthood relationships. Consequently, double damage is being done. Children of abusive parents tend to become their own abusers.
It is important to start awakening to the truth that there is nothing inherently wrong with our being – it is our relationship with our self and with life that has been conditioned to be wrong. And that relationship was formed in early childhood.
It should be our priority to stop letting our experiences of the past dictate how we respond to our life today. It cannot be done without revisiting our childhood.
Start: October 1 – 10:00 pm
Event Category: Psychology of the depth